Success Coach

The Man Coach

2008-12-26T16:27:00.000-08:00

Visit my new blog http://www.themancoach.blogspot.com

Now helping Men achieve more out of life!
From Dating Advice to Work Out Tips and everything in between.
Confused about your Man? Ladies I can shed some light on his behaviour.

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Be a Man!

"First say to yourself what you would be; and then do what you have to do."
Epictetus

The Last 2 Years

2008-02-17T08:46:00.000-08:00

Wow, I cant believe it has been 2 years since I last posted to this blog. The thoughts of writing and inspiring others was something I loved and typing this has already begun to stir my soul.

Over the last 24 months, my time has been spent on launching new projects and my focus had drifted away from this site, however, once again my path has led me back to this blog.

I guess I have always wanted to inspire others, and although I have been focusing on Financial Wealth and Business Success, somewhere in my mind I have been planning to return. So here I am and now I have decided that my next business will be about Inspiring, Motivating and Providing tools to achieve success. What better way than to make money doing what you love to do and making a difference in people's lives. I will tell you more about that later, but let me tell you about the last 2 years.

I have Partnered up with a young entrepreneur/music producer and developed a niche networking site called www.worldsbestproducers.com. It has taken time to put together but since its launch in November has already shaken the music industry. We have already awarded a prize of $1000 to the Top Producer of 2007 and are planning to give away even bigger prizes this year. The beauty of this site is that it is completely free to join and encourages and inspires the art of Music Production.

I have also created a media company called "Orange Peel Media Solutions " www.orangepeelmedia.co.uk. We provide a range of services including web design, e-commerce solutions and much more.

I have also had some hardships during these past 2 years. One thing is for sure, nothing comes easy. No matter what you want to achieve in life, if you are not prepared to do the work, than you will not achieve. Sitting on the couch making excuses gets you nothing. It takes action.

My next project is the one I am most excited about, I cant tell you much yet. What I can say is that it will be Internet Based and it will move mountains!

"Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out."

Robert Collier

Just my Luck!

2006-03-03T08:51:00.000-08:00

How many times have you heard or even said 'It's just my luck', or 'Im just going through a streak of Bad Luck'. Is it possible that some people really are luckier than others, and that for some, bad luck has infected them like a curse? Well the answer is no.

Luck is neutral, it has no favorites, it has no enemies and therefore can not be blamed for the lack of anyone's success. It is irrelevant. So the excuse of 'I'm just cursed with bad luck' stands no ground and is just another way of saying 'I give up'. Using Luck as an excuse for the events in your life is a cowardly way of diverting the blame from your actions. Yes, of course their are horrible things that happen in life; injury, illness and death, to name a few, but these things occur to all humans, its how you decide to deal with it that ultimately determines your fate.

Lets look at the definition of Luck and understand it.
Luck-1. The chance happening of fortunate or adverse events; fortune

The key words are Chance, Fortunate and Adverse. Chance proves my point that Luck is neutral, and has no team. The other key words however, really tell the tale.
A fortunate event would most likely refer to good luck, and an adverse event would definitely refer to bad luck, so in essence your luck is determined by the amount of Fortunate or Adverse events you have. Your probably thinking , yeah OK, not rocket science! The power lies in this next phrase. 'It is how you decide to react to an event, or how you perceive it that makes it Fortunate or Adverse'. That is the secret to having good luck.

No one always has bad luck, or streaks of bad luck , all they have are life events- they way they view those events and the way they communicate them to their brain is what gives them meaning.
'Some guys have all the Luck' No, they have positive outlook's, and create their success through persistence and drive.

So, to summarize, You Create Your Own Luck! You want to be lucky? Create goals, Persist, view obstacles as challenges, Don't make excuses, Find Solutions!
When you break it down, it is just so simple, and if your not buying any of this, well, then your just Sh*t out of Luck!

"Success is simply a matter of luck. Ask any failure."

Success Coaching Online

2006-02-23T10:35:00.000-08:00

Are you lacking confidence?
Do you feel like you are 'stuck in a rut' and can't seem to get out?
Are you tired of settling for average?
Are you Stressed?
Do you struggle to find time to do the things you enjoy most?
Do you have a vice that controls you?
or do you just want to be even more successful?

If you answered yes to any of these questions, or have any other type of 'issue' that you feel is preventing you from being the best you can be... Then I can help.
I have helped all types of people from all walks of life, and I can also help you to overcome your issues, and enjoy a better quality of life.

As Human beings, we all want the most out of life. Personal Development is vital to live an enriched life yet some people feel that it is cowardly to seek a 'Life Coach', in fact- It is those who need it most.
Don't you think it's ironic that most of my clients are already very successful?
Do top athletes need coaches? Of course they do!

If you continue doing the same things you will get the same results!

CHANGE STARTS HERE!

I want to help as many people as I can to achieve success! That is my mission, and what better way to make a living then to help people reach their goals and live their dreams.

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I regularly charge Â£150 per session, but I am offering this to introduce you to the benefits of your own Coach.

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Whatever you decide, do read this weblog, and do follow the tips and advice! I wish you all success and happiness in everything you do!

If you have any questions please e-mail me. Success Coach

"Create your Future"

Where do I find the Motivation?

2006-02-07T11:09:00.000-08:00

Why do some people always seem to have the motivation to get things done, or exercise, or anything for that matter? Why are some highly motivated and others not? Even more important is the question 'How can I get Motivated'

Motivation is an interesting 'event' that occurs within you to give you the drive, and energy to succeed at whatever it is you are pursuing. It is a force, a buzz that develops to push humans into achieving more. It is also the force that gets you up in the morning and gets you to put on your clothes. You see, we all have motivation, otherwise you would probably still be laying in bed, or walking around naked. The trick is knowing how motivation works, and how some can harness great quantities while others just have enough to get by from home to work and back.

I am here to resolve the mystery and tell you how 'Motivation' works, and how you too can get it to work for you. The simple but essential understanding is this; Motivation comes from action! What that means is that when people say that they haven't got the motivation, they actually haven't bothered to try. Motivation comes from action! Remember a time when you didn't feel like doing something, but then were convinced by someone to do it, and discovered that you actually enjoyed it and felt great?
The principle is simple- You have to begin to do something first, then the motivation comes.

So no more excuses, start doing and the motivation will come!

"What this power is I cannot say; all I know is that it exists and it becomes available only when a man is in that state of mind in which he knows exactly what he wants and is fully determined not to quit until he finds it."

Alexander Graham Bell

Focus on Success!

2006-01-23T08:17:00.000-08:00

Here is a great example of Perserverance, of Relentless Drive, of Pure Focus.
I'm not talking about the Advert; although it is a fantastic piece of genius, I am talking about the man, the founder of Honda. I am talking about Soichiro Honda himself.

His story is an exceptional one, and one that I use to inspire,and motivate those who feel life is against them. His story proves that success is about persistence, its about having a vision, Focus, but more importantly it has nothing to do with circumstances!

Here are a few regularly used excuses, which I am sure you perceive are valid and true,

I don't have any money to get started.
I live in a small village, I can't ever succeed here.
I don't have the time.
The economy is bad right now.
I have no connections.
I'm poor in school.
I'm not popular.
Its impossible.

These are just a few, more popular ones, all of which could have been valid excuses for Soichiro, in fact it was much worse for him. His ambition and focus did not allow these thoughts to enter his mind, in fact the impossible was what he wanted. Soichiro was a lot worse off then 99.9% of those reading this right now, so how can any of you make excuses? The only excuse you can make is that you are too lazy. If you can say to yourself ' I am to lazy to achieve my goals ' then the problem is serious and deeper issues need resolving. The rest of you, if you can manage to eat, and sleep then you can achieve success.

I challenge you to read his story, buy a book, search the net, just make your first goal this week to find it and read it... Then try to make excuses!

I leave you with this link to the inspiring ad which truly describes the Founder himself Mr Soichiro Honda- who's legacy lives on. An Extraordinary man, with Extraordinary Success.

Thank You

"I got poor grades in school. It didn't upset me very much. My universe revolved elsewhere, around engines, motors and bicycles..."

Soichiro Honda

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The Impossible Dream!

Communicating for Success!

2006-01-17T13:05:00.000-08:00

How many times have you heard the phrase " He's all talk" or "His bark is bigger then his bite"! We have all heard it or even said it a few times in our lives, but have we stopped to think about what this really means. How come some people can create reputations of respect and leadership by saying very little, while others talk like a leader but fail to get the following. How come some people seem to have magnetic personalities, or are considered natural leaders, while others are always victims or losers.

Its all about Successful Communication!

Easy you might think. Maybe, but first you have to understand the basics. Communication is so much more than what you say, in fact it has very little to do with the words that are coming out of your mouth. Here are the facts.

The 3 forms of Communication

WORDS or Vocabulary
VOICE QUALITIES such as Tone, Pitch, Volume
PHYSIOLOGY. the way you use your body. Gestures, movement etc.

Pretty straightforward so far, but how much of each of these 3 forms do we as humans actually read to form our understanding and our behaviour.

Words or Vocabulary represent only 7% of what is actually interpreted!

Voice Qualities represent 38%.

Physiology 55%

So, in reality the things you say have very little influence on Human Behaviour, Its how you say it, and how your body communicates it. In short, you can tell someone that you are very disappointed in them, but if your smiling and laughing, and dancing around, your message will be very different. The best way to understand this is with Children. If a child does something very naughty, and you want them to stop, simply telling them to stop is not enough. Your voice, and your body language must reflect what you intend to communicate. Otherwise, a child will respond not to what you have said, but to the other forms of communication.

The next time you are speaking to someone, use your self awareness to observe what you are really communicating.

"Success is simply a matter of luck. Ask any failure."

Earl Nightingale

Improve the Quality of your Life!

2006-01-12T05:11:00.000-08:00

Improve the quality of your life NOW! Do not procrastinate. I have seen people waste 10 years of their life by putting change off 'until tomorrow'. Life will pass you by, and tomorrow could be to late, especially if tomorrow is 5,10,20 years from today.

Successful people make their dreams come true. Lets take the fantastic stories of people who have lost an incredible amount of weight and are now fit and vibrant. How come they did it? They made a decision and took action. They said Today is the day, not tomorrow. People who are good at making excuses, are usually good at doing nothing. Sorry-its true. Are you good at nothing?
Get up, get moving! Imagine the life you could, should be living. Excuses will get you nowhere fast.

If you are constantly making excuses then I can help. Excuses are just a poor form of communication. You need to change how you speak to yourself in order to change how you live your life.
"The quality of your life is a result of the quality of your communication"
If you are always communicating negative thoughts, and excuses to yourself then your life will reflect it. The most important thing to remember is that things in life have no meaning, unless you give them meaning. What one person sees as exciting another might see as silly. It is your perception and your beliefs that gives things their meaning.

So, what is the trick to improving the quality of your life? Well, the key is this.

It's not what happens to you that matters, its what YOU DO that makes the difference.
In order for things to change. YOU MUST CHANGE!

Do not wait for things to happen, make them happen. Start TODAY, your SUCCESS starts TODAY.

I wish you all the success in the world. If you want to change, I can help. e-mail Success Coach

"Be the difference, Make it Happen"

Success in the New Year!

2006-01-02T15:36:00.000-08:00

Happy New Year!
Once again the calendar reads January, and people everywhere have decided that this January they will make positive change in their life. All over the world, people have made New Years Resolutions, and are starting the year intent on improving the way they live. It is a tradition that has become ingrained in Western Culture, and one that society expects almost as much as giving gifts at Christmas. It is truly a phenomenon. My question is "How come most 'Resolutions' never see past February?"
I will tell you why, and I will also tell you how you can make a REAL CHANGE in your life that will last!

It's Amazing how the changing of a number can trigger so many to want to make 'Resolutions'. We have come to accept that January or New Years means we must try to change something in our life. Its usually the old favorites: quit smoking, lose weight, more confidence, build muscle, better job, and the list goes on, and its usually things that we definitely should change but have found excuses in the past to not do it! New Years allows us the opportunity to 'give it a go'. Its a great tradition, and that is exactly why 9 out of 10 people quit before the end of February. It has become a fad, a trend, and we make 'Resolutions' secretly knowing we will actually give up! Think about it- Even the world 'Resolution' triggers thoughts of eventual failure! The perception of the word itself, along with the years of tradition has made this event more of a occasion, then a life altering time of decision.

Most people would define 'New Years Resolution' as- A time of year where you choose something that you know you should change about yourself, and change it for a month or so. Quitting by the end of January is not acceptable, but if you make it to February then it is generally accepted that you have done OK. Make it to March and people will be impressed, but why bother, nobody cares by then.

How can you make an important life altering decision based on these beliefs and perceptions? You can't. Especially if you are a serial 'Resolutionary' and make them every year, and every year you fail. If you do the same thing you will always get the same results, therefore another 'New Year Resolution' will result in the same Result. For you, you need to NOT MAKE A RESOLUTION- that's right! Do Nothing!
Continue doing the thing you need to change! Yes, do it and for the months of January and February, everytime you do it, think about how awful it is for you, and how your life could improve if you changed. Really think of a big enough 'WHY'. Visualize the negative effects on your life, think of the worst case scenarios and visualize them when you smoke, or drink, or eat too much! ( Read related articles for more info on these techniques)

Now you are ready. Make a REAL decision to IMPROVE YOUR LIFE, do it alone and use your 'why'. Visualize the person you want to be! This is not a 'resolution', this is a LIFE CHANGING DECISION ! COMMIT TO THIS! BE A SUCCESS!

It is important to know that change is always difficult, it takes time to create new habits. Just remember to stay focused, and even if you stumble get right back up and focus even harder.

For online advice on Making Positive Change and Succeeding, send an e-mail to ican@successinc.co.uk

Whatever you do I wish you all a Healthy and Prosperous New Year for you and yours.

"To climb steep hills requires a slow pace at first." Shakespeare

Even the successful need Holidays!

2005-12-21T11:28:00.000-08:00

This will be my last post before Christmas. I am fortunate enough to have my parents visiting from Canada and need to devote my attention to them and make the most of their visit.

Success in relationships means sacrifice. Remember to put things aside for a little while every so often to spend with the ones you love.
Time is the most precious of all things! Give some this Christmas!

Have a Wonderful Christmas!

"In order to succeed, your desire for success should be greater than your fear of failure."

Bill Cosby

Do I need a Life Coach?

2005-12-18T11:38:00.000-08:00

Have you ever asked yourself this question? Maybe, you have wondered what could a Life Coach possibly do for you? It is so acceptable in todays society to have a Personal Trainer, or even a Shrink, but a large portion of the modern world still think its crazy to have a life coach. Is it the insecurity of admitting that one needs guidance? I dont know. It seems ok to get help looking after your body, or even admit to being crazy, but wanting to improve your life..Hmm..I'm not sure.

It's all a bit silly really. Most of the people I coach are all quite successful, they have achieved a fair amount of wealth, and status, but are still looking to improve. Whether it be a relationship, a career move, or to find greater fullfilment from life, they are the majority of my clients. These people are open to constant growth and development. They are the leaders, the motivators and usually fantastic coaches themselves. So why do they pay for guidance? Because they know that they are personally biased,that they can't see all the angles, that two is better than one, and that life is way to short for trial and error.

I am not insisting you go out and get a coach, but if you want to be successful in life then you have to open your mind. Ignorant disapproval will get you nowhere, because coaching comes from peers, from family,friends, co-workers. If you think you know it all you have already failed.

I wish you a great Christmas and hope you have planned to share with others less fortunate, even if it is just your time!

"Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new."

Albert Einstein.

Success through Self-Awareness!

2005-12-15T15:13:00.000-08:00

It is one of the most important little tools that us Human Beings can use to alter the course of our lives. Self-Awareness is one of those human-defining skills that we all are capable of using but only few actually do. It is a simple technique that can be understood very quickly, but performed very rarely. If you can learn to use this little trick, it will put you ahead of the game and on the path to SUCCESS.

Self-Awareness is simple to understand, it is the ability to be mentally aware of what we are doing at any particular moment. It is like stepping out of our bodies and watching ourselves interact with others as if we were watching a TV show. Take home movies for example; you are watching yourself interact with people and things in the third person, and normally it is quite embarrassing or awkward because you look and act completely different to what you thought you were acting like at the time. We have all done it, cover our eyes with embarrassment and say " I cant believe I did that" or " I can't believe I said that". The funny thing is we are the same person, so why didn't we think we were acting funny then, why did we behave the way we did?
Because we were not self-aware at the time!

Self-Awareness takes practice and time to perform. I don't mean being withdrawn and analyzing everything around you and come across as unnatural and emotionally disconnected.No, I mean being comfortable, and behaving naturally while understanding and controlling your responses. 'Think before you speak' how many times have you heard that phrase! Well that is part of it, it is listening and adjusting your response based on a quick overview of the situation, the people involved, and the possible outcome.

Successful people are very good at this, and it makes their conversations and communication more effective. They say the right things at the right time to the right people to get the right outcome. The real success comes from also being aware of your body language and tone! Full awareness will allow you to be a better communicator, and a have greater success at creating rapport and influencing people. Learn to be more aware and reap the rewards.

"Seek first to understand, then to be understood."

Stephen Covey

Make your Christmas a Success!

2005-12-12T12:43:00.000-08:00

I had a fantastic day today! I spent the whole day with my wife searching for the right Christmas tree and decorating the house. You see, today was a great success. Not only did I enjoy time with the woman I love, I also got to catch up with her about issues in my work and in my mind. It was a great day and we sometimes forget the importance of the simple things in life.

It is very easy to get wrapped up in chasing wealth and success, that we forget that part of being successful is to be able to spend quality time with the ones we love. If we are blinded by the pursuit of wealth, that we neglect the reasons we want it for in the first place. Having an unrelentless drive, Persistence is vital, but it also must be applied to relationships, especially the ones you value.

So, my message to you today is to take the time to just 'be' with the ones you care about. Listen to them, and understand there needs! It makes your life bigger and brighter when you can share your goals and plans with others. It also makes the obstacles and problems lighter and more manageable. To truly succeed your whole house must also be succesful.

I will leave you with a thought! In this time of celebration and plenty, remember that their are alot more people in worse positions and with alot less than you a have now. Take the time this christmas to give something to those who really need it; Those who's only goal this christmas will be to find some food. Start your christmas by asking yourself what you can do for others, not what you would like for christmas. You have the capacity to make all your dreams come true, so give hope to those who are lower on the ladder and help them to succeed, even if it is just for 1 day.

"You must be the change you wish to see in the world."

Mahatma Ghandi

SUCCESS is for the Bold

2005-12-08T06:32:00.000-08:00

SUCCESS is for the bold!

To be a success in life you must be bold! There is no room at the top for those who are to shy or embarrassed to stand up for themselves and be heard. Success in everything you do will be determined by the environment around you! If you are a pushover, you will always be pushed over, if you act like a victim, you will always be the victim, especially if the fear of making a comment, asking a favour, requesting what is rightfully yours are the reasons for the hat you wear! Don’t think that if you just stay quiet, agree with everything, and do your job well that eventually someone will notice and reward you! Sorry, it’s not going to happen! Don’t kid yourself; it takes a very specific type of attitude to become a success.

Everyday, life is happening all around us, but the way we deal with it ultimately determines our destiny. It is your ability to handle and bend the environment around you to suit your goals that brings success. Having the confidence and discipline to tackle the issues around you that will give you faster access to your goal is vital. If you deserve a raise then tell them, if you disagree, then express yourself, if you are cheated then speak up! There are very few shy and timid successful people! Why, because the environment around them determines their course. They allow the environment to drive their life toward whatever? Definitely not toward their goals!

If you happen to be a shy and timid person, and want to succeed then your first goal must be to become confident and assertive. Visualize yourself being that person. Use Persistent, Effective Action. Give yourself rewards, and enjoy the new challenges. Replace the fear; instead imagine how it would feel to be old and regretful! You don’t have to be loud and bubbly, you just have to be confident and maintain your integrity at all times. Stop making excuses about how bad things keep happening to you! Bad things don’t happen to people, things happen, whether it’s bad or good depends on how you deal with it! Be bold, expect more from yourself, and expect more from others. Live life!

“Fortune favours the bold.”
Virgil

NO FEAR!

2005-12-07T11:52:00.000-08:00

You hear it all the time, FEAR! It almost brings a skeptical perception attached to it. It instantly reminds me of a televangelist preaching to thousands of brain washed desperate souls. "What is your FEAR!? I can rid you of your demons- relieve you of your FEAR." Just put some money in an envelope to help me buy my new yacht he means! Life can sometimes seem unfair, but remember it is all about how you perceive the situation. The sad part is that some people who have not been coached or guided in times of desperation, can be conned by those who abuse their knowledge of human psychology. It is those people that tarnish the image of Personal Development, and the life altering power it can have. Great coaches and teachers will always help you succeed, and yes you do have to invest money for their time and knowledge, but they will enrich your life and not drain it!

The truth is , 'fear' is a huge obstacle on your path to success, and it is one that will prevent you from achieving the life you deserve. In most cases it is the fear of Success itself that prevents people from living magnificent lives. Maybe it will make more sense the other way around. It is the comfort and understanding of failure that prevents people from succeeding, being uncomfortable and feeling anxious is scary, but that's what it takes!

Going after what you want is full of uncertainty, hard work, and risk. People try new businesses, or try to go after the new career; they get a hint of motivation, particularly around New Years, and try to change their life! The problem is, as soon as an obstacle appears such as a rejected business plan, or someone else gets promoted they begin to feel the uncomfortableness, the uncertainty! Basically, they are scared that they will not be able to overcome the obstacles, so they give up. They decide to fail, when the only thing that they were afraid of was failing in the first place! It doesn't make sense if you think about it. If your afraid of failing, why do you give up and fail anyway?
Because your probably even more afraid of what would actually happen if you went for it and succeeded! How weird would that be?
Think of Smoking for example, it is the perfect example! People give up quitting because they are afraid that they might actually succeed. To the smoker it is frightening trying to imagine a life without smoking. "What would I do with my hands? What would I do after a coffee? What if I go out for a drink?" They are more scared of how uncertain their life would be without smoking that it is much easier to keep smoking!
The human mind is a funny thing.
Keep learning!

"Courage is not the lack of fear but the ability to face it."

Lt. John B. Putnam Jr

Change your mood instantly!

2005-12-05T11:50:00.000-08:00

Today I thought I would pass on a way to instantly change your mood! Any time... Any place! A quick simple solution to cure your blues without having to take any drugs, or visit any doctors. Remember the information I give you here can have an immediate positive effect on your life , however , I am just giving you basic principles and techniques. Imagine the power and effectiveness these techniques could have if you invest in reading and learning more about them. Imagine the success you could have if you had the knowledge. For now a simple explanation can get you started, and hopefully intrigued.

First we have to understand a few things, a few basic principles. I will keep this short and leave the complicated science stuff out of the equation.

Our Brain simply processes information based on the 5 senses.
Our senses supply information to the brain via the nervous system.
Moods/States are a result of specific sequences of information supplied to our brain by our nervous system.

Basically, our brain is like a computer, and like a computer responds to different commands. It also has been programmed over time by receiving files or information which it stores in its memory. We ,like computers have been programmed over the years to react a certain way to incoming information, and it causes us to act in the programmed manner. For example, If your computer has been programmed to do so, everytime you turn it on, it automatically dials onto the internet. A person could be programmed in the same way. A person could have been programmed by experiences to start to sweat in the presence of dogs. The computer dialed onto the internet because it recognized a specific sequence of events. It was turned on, windows came up, etc,etc, and so it dialed up. Simple. The person sweating also reacted due to a series of specific events. The person saw the dog, began to breathe shorter breathes, heard the dog barking and began to sweat.

The only difference is that we humans have emotions and feelings unlike a computer, so the sequence of specific events also triggers an emotion or state. In this case the state was fear, fear of the dog. Knowing this gives us great power. The fact that we can rationalize this sequence, the fact that humans are intelligent, allows us to be able to manipulate our own brains. We do it all the time without even knowing it, but now that we are aware, we can consciously control our states.

It takes very specific impulses to our senses to arrive at an emotion or state, and they have to be in a very specific sequence. So, by changing the impulses that we are sending to our brain we can change the way we feel! Yes, I am serious, by disrupting the sequence and triggers, we can feel like we want to feel. Try to remember the last time you felt mad and angry, think about the situation, imagine that you are there! Are you starting to feel angry? Really visualize it! Are you getting mad? Now, notice your body- did your breathing get shorter, did your brow start to tighten, did your posture change, of course it did! The feeling came from the information you sent your brain, not because of the memory, but because the way the memory caused you to physically change. Do this with a happy memory, visualize it! How is your body changing, what physical triggers are you sending to your brain.

Lets not get to deep. Think of it like this. If you hunch down, look at the floor, breathe as if your sighing, let your shoulders shrug forward. Walk slowly and heavily, frown- if you do these things you will start to feel depressed and sad! Now, stand up tall, raise your head, take a deep breath and exhale deeply, open your eyes wider, shoulders back, smile-you are starting to feel good, confident! Do you get it! The signals your senses, your body, sends to your brain is what causes you to feel a certain way. Change your input and the output changes.

So the next time you are feeling down, think about the message you are sending! Then, begin sending new messages, ones that are associated with the state you want to be in! How would a successful person sit, breath etc. This is a powerful tool, and if you take the time to learn more you will be amazed!

"If you feel like it's difficult to change, you will probably have a harder time succeeding." Andrea Jung

The Formula Works! True Story!

2005-12-01T14:25:00.000-08:00

I thought I would share a little bit of my life experience, which proves the basic success principles of Persistent Effective Action! Every time I have applied this formula it has truly worked wonders and delivered amazing success to my life. Of course I have failed more than I have succeeded, and it has taken years to be able to have the patience to really analyze my past experiences and understand the results I 've achieved. So, with the beauty of hindsight, and the wisdom of trial and error, now know that every success I have had in the past, was due to Persistent, Effective Action- along with a huge 'Why', and no fear!
The formula works.

I opened Mambo Bar & Grill in the summer of 2000 to a capacity crowd of 500, plus a queue of 200 people who couldn't get in! I had Live Radio Coverage from the most popular station in the city and cars kept driving by to see what the commotion was all about! I was 24, and had accomplished one of my biggest dreams, and I did it with less then $10 000 of my own money!

How? Well, I had saved about 6000 over the previous few years from various ventures I had tried, and I had a few credit cards, but most importantly I had a great idea that I totally and unconditionally believed in. I also had a huge, huge why! I had met a girl and had truly fallen in love for the first time in my life, She was English and she was coming to stay in Canada- So of course,I wanted to be somebody, I wanted to show her that I was a Business man! It was my drive- It was the perfect time to make my dream come true!

I applied for loans everywhere and got rejected everytime! I asked friends for money, but none could spare the amount I was after. I tried other Business men...Nobody would bite, so I decided to do it anyway!
I found the perfect venue, and put a deposit on the rent! It was 5000! Their was no going back!

2 months later I was having a toast in my Mambo VIP room, with an English girl who is now my wife!
They were 2 exciting months, with so many stories to tell today. I will share the events in the weeks to come.

"Go confidently in the direction of your dreams.Live the life you have imagined."

Henry David Thoreau

Karma Baby!

2005-11-30T14:29:00.000-08:00

You could argue that Karma doesnt actually exist, or that their are some people that seem to step on others daily with no immediate consequence, but I do believe it exists. I like to believe that life has a funny way of giving you what you deserve regardless of your status.
Karma is the greatest equalizer of men.
I say this because, I have recently been witness to some fantastic equalizing events, and one particularly close to home. You see, if you are a person of Good Principles, of Integrity, of Genuine Human care, then you will naturally attract similar people, which will bring acts of kindness and generosity in return. They will bring you success and prosperity to you and yours.
On the other hand if you are an arrogant 'you know what' then you too will attract similar people, and eventually you too will be at the end of your own worst actions. These people will get whats coming to them, life will do that to you! Its a beautiful thing, and it inspires me knowing that they have to sleep with themselves every night. Those who are greedy will soon be old! Those who are cons, will soon be conned, those who betray, will be fools!
The great equaliser-Karma.
So, to the arrogant '%*&!#' who fooled my wife!
The sweetest revenge has come to me! It was just a matter of time!
Karma Baby!

"The miracle is this — the more we share, the more we have."
Leonard Nimoy

How to Develop a Personal Vision!

2005-11-28T16:01:00.000-08:00

Are you a visionary? Or do you prefer to spend your time in the here and now, solving problems and getting on with things? Achieving a balance between 'dreaming' about a desired future state and living in the current state is difficult. Many of us have a strong inclination towards one or the other...very few of us are able to achieve and sustain a balance between the two.
A Tug-of-War

There is a constant tug-of-war going on between dealing with 'current reality' and developing a lofty vision of who we want to be, what we want to do and what we want to have. This short exercise affords you the opportunity to achieve such a balance. We sincerely hope that you find it of lasting value.
Get relaxed

Find a quiet spot where you will not be interrupted. Gather a pad of paper and a pencil. Get seated comfortably. Close your eyes. Take a few deep breaths and let go of all your tensions.
Choose a starting point

If you are the type that likes to live in current reality then start there. Ask yourself the question: What about my current reality do I have control over and would like to change? Keep asking this question about all aspects of your life:

a. Family

b. Career/Job

c. Health and Fitness

d. Home/Location

e. Financialf. Possessions

g. Hobbies and Interests

h. Spiritual

i. Relationships

j. Life Purpose
To better understand yourself, try using a validated instrument or tool, such as the MBTI (Myers-Briggs Type Indicator) or True Colors

If you prefer to take the visionary approach, project yourself forward five years from the current date, and picture a perfect day in your life where all of the above aspects are working in harmony. Picture as you arise in the morning, how all of these aspects come together gradually throughout the day, and as you retire for the night how grateful and at peace you feel for having all of these aspects work for you. Picture it as though you were living it right now, and use words in the present tense to describe it.

Now, without further ado start writing! If you prefer to draw, then do that as well, but try to capture your vision or current reality in words.
Prioritize

Whether you are dealing with current reality and trying to change it, or visioning a brand new future, you need to set priorities. For each aspect, compare it in turn with each of the other aspects and make a choice. Is A more important than B? C? D? etc. Go through all of these and come up with a list of prioritized areas. If an area is low on the priority list it does not mean that it gets tossed out. Instead it receives attention later rather than sooner.
Plan and Take Action

Take the first item on your list and develop a plan around it. If it is Financial, talk with a financial advisor. If it is a Career issue, talk with a trusted friend or someone who understands your career goals. In any case, talk it through with a coach, mentor or expert in the area. Search out books, educational programs etc and study them. Whatever you do, get started. As you develop and implement your plan, you will notice that the other aspects of your life will become involved. Don't worry about this. As you draw in these other aspects, you will continue to maintain a focus on your prioritized areas. This is as it should be.
Review and Revise

Review your plan regularly, gradually weaving in to it all of the other aspects of your life. Your plan and the actions taken as a result will become interwoven over time, reflecting the many faceted aspects of your life. At least once yearly, review your plan in its entirety and adjust your priorities. As you do this you will achieve a greater focus in your life, while at the same time acknowledging the complexities of this world.
Final Thoughts

Most dreams remain just that...dreams. Setting some tangible goals and getting going translates the dream into reality. It was once said that 'a goal is a dream taken seriously.' Realizing your personal vision takes uncommon persistence and determination to achieve your goals, and with that thought we leave you with the following quote by Calvin Coolidge:

"Nothing in the world can take the place of persistence. Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful men with talent. Genius will not; un-rewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not; the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent."--Calvin Coolidge

Article by Brian Ward

http://www.afinitymc.com

Success By Association.

2005-11-26T12:57:00.000-08:00

The company you keep will determine how successful you will become! Oh yes it will! There is alot to be said about Success By Association, or No Success By Association for that matter, but the truth is you are a product of your surroundings.

To put it bluntly, if you surround yourself with losers, then the likelihood of you being a loser is...Hmm...Pretty high! I'm not trying to be funny or insult anyone, what I am trying to do is maybe shock a few people into taking the time to analyze the group of friends they keep. If your friends are drinking everynight, complaining about not having money then having a few more rounds, driving that same beat up old car, then you most likely lead a similar life.
Now don't get me wrong-If your happy with that sort of lifestyle then that's great, but you wouldn't still be reading this article if you were! I'm not criticizing the lifestyle, I'm just stating that if you want to have more, be more, then you will have to change your circle of friends.

It sounds pretty harsh, and it is, but you only have one life. I'm not telling you to go and dump your friends, but I am saying that you need to find other, new friends that are already doing or thinking like you are. If your friends are true friends, then they too will want to be more, or at least they will understand that you want to learn from others, and that you want to develop and succeed at life! There is no shame in wanting more, there is in pretending you don't.

Once you know who you want to be you can find people that are similar to spend your time with. Listen to them, watch them, ask them questions. People who are succeeding will be flattered that you ask. If you want to achieve even greater heights then find a mentor! Someone who is at the pinnacle of your ambitions, and try to spend some time with them. Write a letter or ask them to spend an hour of their time with you, be polite but professional, and explain your reasons. Then listen, watch and learn!

Raise your standards and be who you really want to be!

"Never stand begging for what you have the power to earn.Â

Miguel de Cervantes

What's your "Why"?

2005-11-25T07:18:00.000-08:00

Why did you do that? Why didn't you do that? What is it that motivates us to achieve the goals that we have set? How come some people can stay focused and motivated despite the obstacles? How do they continue to get up everyday, and still go forward with their goal?

They have a big enough reason, a big enough "why"!

We all have goals and push towards achieving them, but the secret to truly maintaining the consistent pressure required to achieve, the secret to having relentless motivational drive, is to have such a big "why" that any other outcome would be catastrophic! "I want to be wealthy because I want to have a Ferrari and look cool!" Thats great but do you think that is going to motivate you? not likely! I mean maybe for a rare few the desire to have a Ferrari is so intense that they find their drive. However, to truly be driven you need to search your heart and soul and discover what really moves you. Is it your Children, is it your wife, is it giving back to your parents? Only you know the answer. I want to be wealthy! Why? Because I want to be able to provide a good life for my children, I want to be able to buy my mom the house she has always dreamt of, to be able to afford to bring my family together regularly, To have more time to spend with the ones I love! To be a success!
That is my "why"! Hey, nice things are great, but this is the real reason, this is my inspiration!
Now, turn this on its head! Think about what would happen if you dont' achieve your goals, imagine the opposite! Everytime you lose concentration or focus, think about this.
"I need to stay motivated, If I dont I will not be able to provide the best things for my children, my mother and father will continue to struggle, and work untill very old, I will not see them in their later years because I can't afford the travel, I will not enjoy holidays with my family, I will not be able to look after them as they have me, I will not be a success, I will not be a good father!"
It hurts me thinking about it, and that is why I must stay focused!I start getting physically sick when I think about not reaching my goal. This has power to me! It drives me!

Its up to you to look deep inside and understand what you value the most. Then visualise those things being taken away, visualise the hurt, the pain. Then do what it takes!
Do whatever it takes to succeed. The future is yours and your alone! Live how you decide!

"First say to yourself what you would be;and then do what you have to do."

Epictetus

Live Your Dreams

2005-11-22T02:22:00.000-08:00

My dad has always been a runner. Every morning at 4 A.M., he would quietly leave the house for his morning jog. It was his time to think, plan for the day, and figure out how he could save the world… all before breakfast.I always admired my dad and wanted to be like him, but there was no way I could run as far as he did. Each morning as we would run together, he encouraged me and would take my mind off the distance by teaching me about setting goals and living my dreams.We ran a lot of small races together over the years. Each time without fail, my dad would finish well ahead of me, yet he would always return to the last mile marker so we could cross the finish line together. It was finally time to run our first half marathon. I had always dreamt of running a big race, but even with my dad’s confidence in me, I was nervous and unsure. When I received the news that he had to travel out of town on the race day, I was devastated. I had never run that far by myself and felt very discouraged. My dad reminded me, “Living your dreams can only begin by placing one foot in front of the other. You can do this. I believe in you.” It just wasn’t the same.When I hit mile 11, I was ready to quit. I had barely enough energy to make it one more mile. I knew, unless something changed, that I would have to walk the rest of the way. It was just too hard. As I approached mile 12, I was struggling. In the distance, I thought I saw a familiar face. I rubbed my eyes and hoped I wasn’t hallucinating, but it looked like my dad! It was! He had changed his plans to drive 4 hours so he could meet me at the last mile… just like always.I could barely hold back the tears as we crossed that finish line together. I learned how to live my dreams because, through his example, my dad showed me how.
Taken from http://www.forbetterlife.org

"Treat people as if they were what they ought to be, and you help them to become what they are capable of being."

Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

The Power of Goals!

2005-11-19T10:46:00.000-08:00

It is Phenomenal, the power that goals , and goal setting have on the outcome of your Life!
Without goals their is no success! As a matter of fact, I am going to stretch the boundries and say that without goals their is no consistent Happiness in life!, Yes, thats right no goals, no happy! The reason I say this is because it is the pursuit of goals that truly makes us smile, it is the getting closer that excites and invigorates us. So, in essence it is not the obtaining of goals that makes us happy but the pursuit, the challanges , the intermitent rewards that really gets those happy bugs a buzzin!

Lets take successful Athletes, or Business men- why do they keep wanting more once they have achieved? Why try to run faster than the fastest, why build higher than the highest, why make 10 million, when your goal was 1 million? Its the chase, not the finish! Of course their is a climatic eruption of Happiness once you achieve your goals, but then you want something else. Such is life! Miserable are those with no goals, aims, aspirations- they are doomed. A poor man with a passionate vision will be happy- and probably will succeed as well.

Now when I say Goals, I do mean Dreams, Ambitions, Wishes, however because we have begun to understand how language directly affects our motivation then we dont want to use these words. Dreams and Wishes are perceived as non- attainable, fantasy like. When people use 'Dreams' they dont actually believe they can achieve them. " My Dream is to live in a beautiful Villa by the sea and drive a Sports car" Yeah- but really its just a dream.
Now say it like this - " My goal is to develop a business, earn 10 000 extra per year, in 2 years I will buy my Sports Car and in 5 I will buy my Villa!
Sounds possible now! It is!

Set small goals, and reward yourself when you achieve them. Set large goals, put a plan together, and enjoy the journey. Smile and share the Happiness of the chase, the rush of achievement! Why settle for mediocrity, when you can live a fullfilling, happy, extraordinary life!
What are you waiting for? Go set some goals!

"If you don't know where you are going, you'll probably end up somewhere else."

Lewis Carroll

Today will be a great day! Golf anyone?

2005-11-16T16:04:00.000-08:00

Another day of life! How precious it is! How will I make this day count, knowing that once it is gone I can never get it back?
I will live it, and got to bed tonight satisfied that I have edged forward with my goals, that I have smiled and laughed, that I have touched some body’s soul, and that I dared to be better than yesterday!
I have written a short affirmation that I use in the mornings to put me in the right state of mind to make the most of my day. I say it to myself in the mirror when I first go to the washroom, and I say it out loud as I shower. I am a terrible morning person, so this is a vital part of my routine. Saying it in the shower really invigorates me, and gets me psyched up for whatever the day shall bring. You can use this or come up with your own. It might feel weird at first but do it and you will be amazed.

Today is a new day.
Today will be a great day!
I will be the best I can be today!
I will live passionately today!
I am confident, I am intelligent, and I am Persistent!
Today is my day!
Today I will choose a positive attitude, and encourage the same in others.
I am excited about today!
Today is a new day!
Today will be a great day!

Send me your affirmations, and if you are new at this -remember the following tips.
Make it relevant to you.
Make it positive, ex. I will be confident or I am confident instead of I will not be shy, or I wont be intimidated.
Make it short so that you can memorise it.
Say it to yourself but also say it out loud! There is power in the sound!
Say it with conviction-Believe it and it will be!

Bring on the new day!

"When you know what you want, and you want it badly enough, you'll find a way to get it"

Jim Rohn

No Excuses!

2005-11-14T14:48:00.000-08:00

Have you ever stopped to listen to people who always seem to have bad luck, or people who are going no where fast? Some people always seem to be stuck in a rut! Why do you think that is? Its simple, the language you use both externally and internally directly determines how you deal with a situation and how it will affect you.

Over the years we have trained our subconsious to speak the language that it does. Poor training results in poor inner language which translates into poor results in the outside world. Let me give you an example.
I know a girl who had the worst luck. It seemed she could never do anything right. She was taking driving lessons to get her drivers licence, and everytime she would get back from a lesson she would break down in tears and say- "I will never learn to drive, Im horrible." She took her exam, and failed because she thought she had parked badly and then started crying and saying -"I failed I knew It", and then she speed around the course and really did fail. The point of the story is she was actually a pretty good driver, I have seen much worse pass with flying colors, but the language she used affected her outcome.

We saw her as unlucky, only because she eventually convinced us over the years by using self defeating language. We always heard her say-"I have such bad luck", "It always happens to me"- that we actually began to believe it, and unkowingly re-enforce it. Now, she has changed her language, not just to us, but her internal dialogue is positive and empowering. I taught her to use a simple technique, one that anyone can use. First it involves Self Awareness, you have to listen to yourself and focus on how you think in different situations. Then, everytime your inner lingo says- I cant do that! or Thats to hard? or I dont have the time? or Im just not that lucky?or Its no use? all you have to do is pinch yourself in the arm really hard so it hurts! and immediately turn the phrase around-I can do that if I try! or its easier than I think! or I can find the time! or I can be lucky! or I will do it! or I can do anything!
Try it! The next time you hear the little voices saying "Im just not good enough" pinch yourself, raise your head high and change your thought " I am good enough" . This is not positive thinking its positive training, Its preparing your mind to look for solutions and not quit in the face of challange.

"He that is good for making excuses, is seldom good for anything else"

Benjamin Franklin

How to succeed at Life!

2005-11-12T10:27:00.000-08:00

I am going to tell you the basic formula of how to get everything you have ever dreamed of and I am going to do it free!Thats right, Im not going to charge you an astronomical amount to buy my book, Im not even going to ask you to make 3 easy payments over a period of time for my CD's. In fact I will tell you the secret to success in the next few sentences. There is however only one catch, are you ready for it? You must believe with all your heart and soul- you have to believe with all the essence of your being that you will be successful! That's it, that is my price, or should I say -our price. Its not much to ask for, but in order to carry on and truly become a success it is absolutely necessary. Without this, their can be no success, no growth! Without belief there is nothing. Think about where we would be now as a human race if Einstein didnt believe he could invent the lightbulb? What if the allies didnt think they could win the war? Ok Ok, Im not saying belief is enough, but what I am saying is that without it success is impossible. So now that you have the pre-requisite to success I am going to tell you how to succeed. Here it comes...
Take Persistent, Effective Action!
Thats it! Take Persistent Effective Action!
I know what some of you are thinking, thats crap- I want the secret!
Well my friends that is it! If you believe in a project down to your bones, and you take Persistent Effective Action you will Succeed! It is proven time and time again by the great men and women of our time. That is all that every successful person has done! that is the formula! Sure, there are a few lazy bastards that got picked out of a queue and made famous- but that is the exception and not the rule. If you do this you will succeed-it is so simple!
Is it? The trick is training yourself to be persistent, despite the bad results and the obstacles! If it were easy to take Persistent Effective Action then we would all be rich and successful, but it is all that is required.

I am challenging people to take on this Success Project along with me. I am going to prove that if you follow the secret you can be a success. I will post my progress and I will pass on any techniques I have used to overcome any obstacles, Mental or otherwise. I also ask that if you are a success that you share your story and relate it to this article. This site will be dedicated to passing on techniques and information to help you apply Persistent Effective Action! I will succeed!

"Success seems to be connected with action. Successful men keep moving. They make mistakes, but they dont quit."

Conrad Hilton